People are hard. In an effort to cope with what has always been difficult for me I chose to stand outside the fray. In honesty it wasn’t always a choice as much as a defense. When you are a part of a group there are expectations. It is assumes that you have enough likenesses that you can stand on common ground. It has been said that by choosing to stand outside the circle of acceptance I was challenging, daring even, people to like me. I think in reality I was challenging them to really know me. If you are not a person who can manage friendship in the medium. That is, one that isn’t surface and not of ocean depth, as I am not, the challenge is set forth to make the other person do half the work to get to know you. If they are contented to settle with what they observe on the surface, there is no need to expend more than you are given.
We are all different. Most people wear their sameness on the outside in an effort to connect with others. The truth is that we are not the same from one minute to the next. Our experience changes who we are every day. A more meaningful relationship is made by seeing each other for who we are capable of becoming. That though you don’t know who they will be, you are interested in walking their path with them.
this life is a “choose your own adventure” book with unlimited outcomes. The perk of which is to find people whose choices have led to transection with your own. The meaningfulness is in the choice.