and you can too

    so, i have a dear friend who is waging war on the big “C”.  bear with me it gets better.  she is a fabulous lady.  her laughter is contagious and her face is yummy enough to eat.  her illness has been a testament to how much people love her as she has this large group of strong women who are rallying around her for support.  she deserves it.  we all know she would do the same for any one of us.

     i always find my self wondering, (i’m sure i’m not alone in this) how i would act if this was my burden to bear.  all i can say is i hope that i would face this demon just like she is, with laughter.
     she was slated to start radiation this week.  another friend and i went to have a last hurrah girls night in with her.  the wine was flowing, the snacks were being nibbled, and the laughter was ringing off the walls.  well into the night, she stops all conversation to tell us about this great idea she has had.  for those of you not in the know, when you get radiation, they tattoo all of the points where the radiation is to be delivered so that there is no guess work involved.  so her big idea is….CANTOOS.   M and i are just staring at her with our mouths agape.  all you can hear is the ting ting of our eyelashes beating against each other waiting for the punch line.  and then it came.  you know cantoos. ” i’ve always wanted a tattoo but i never knew what to get so i just went with a couple of dots.  later you can go back an connect them and make a picture.”  ok, now that’s funny.  she thought it was such a great idea that she was telling her oncologist that they should go in on it together.
     it occurred to me (in the shower.  what?   isn’t that where all people do their best thinking?) that this story is precisely why bad things happen to good people.  because good people teach us how to act in the face of adversity.  good people blaze the path not desired for the rest of us so we can see how it is meant to be done.
     now i gotta go start planning what i want should i need a CANTOO.

6 responses to “and you can too”

  1. Dushie

    I love your blog because I never know if I will laugh, cry, cringe or be horrified. It is a true talent to be able to move people on many different levels. You have the gift of being incredibly insightful. Your friend is lucky to have you and so are the rest of us. Sniff sniff

  2. EH Shuba

    aw! dushie mcdushmuffin.  you’re just what the dr ordered

  3. Abby

    Point well made. Horrible things happen to wonderful people and in their most vulnerable hours we get to witness how amazing they are. However, doesn’t it leave you wondering if you too would have the same depths of strength and they amazing grace they have to accept what they have been dealt?

  4. EH Shuba

    yes it does! YES IT DOES! these lessons are a gift, for sure

  5. Mary

    I do believe you have connected several of your dots already. What a great night. Love this blog.

  6. EH Shuba

    thanks M!  it was wasn’t it?!  it would have to be with you two.  xxx

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