It seems we live in a world of superlatives.
She has the most gold medals of anyone.
That was the worst case of my career.
I have never been so happy, or so sad.
I can’t decide how I feel about this. On one hand, it could be that as humans, we live so in the moment that this time, the right here and now, really is the pinnacle. It could also be that we are foolish inauthentic people incapable of really being that reflective. I’m guessing it’s a little of both.
This is where scale is so important. When you look at your situation from a 1-10 scale it can help to frame it in reality. It can make you stop and really evaluate your number. This may not be important for everyone. For some, it might be just the tool that we need to assess. I suppose when we are in a good place it’s not so important to evaluate our scale. But in the dark times, it has helped me. First if you give the darkness a number, if you give it size, it seems easier to know what you are fighting against. For instance, if you are an 8, HA, 8 I laugh in your general direction. I could navigate 8 in my sleep. Anything higher than an 8? Well, I’m not sure I have witnessed what comes after 8.
In light, I know just what has brought me to an 8 and maybe even higher. I can use my 8 in lightness to help me count my blessings. To help me kick 8 in darkness’s scrawny ass. “f” you 8D, my 8L’s dad can beat up your dad any day of the week.
Balance is happiness. We can not truly appreciate the goodness in our life if we are not able to measure it against the darkness. My strength has come from my struggle. My confidence from weathering a storm. I am a warrior from my war. I have found peace in my balance. I can not always attain balance easily. Anything worth having is worth fighting for. I honestly believe that I could not treasure the loves in my life without knowing the pain of hatred.
I look up from writing to see the sun rising from behind the trees.