They may revoke my feminist card for this, but…..I don’t see the harm in “cat-calling”. I mean I know the reasons that some women are appalled by it, I just don’t agree with them.
My value is not determined by the things people say to me. I can not be diminished by someone seeing me as a sexual creature. I am sexual. I am also intelligent. I’m empathetic. I’m judgemental. I’m sensitive. Reverent AND irreverent. None of those things cease to be because some fella whistled at me after appreciating my apple bottom.
Nor does the whistler cease to be who or what they are. I don’t assume them to be stupid or unread because they fix power lines. I don’t assume that they don’t respect women. I don’t know a thing about them. The fiber of their being is unchanged by my ignorance of who they are.
It is human nature to make assumptions about people because of the way that they look. Those assumption can not undo who you are on the inside. The flip side of that coin is that we can not control the response of others. To try is a waste of effort. I don’t need a person that I will never actually meet to respect me. I don’t know that them cat-calling is evidence that they don’t. They might just think I look good. What’s the harm in that?